2-16-14 Before and After I do (3) – Have Fun

We are into the 3^rd week of our series Before and After I do and hopefully whether you are singled or married you have found this series relevant and helpful.  I grew up in church and I don’t recall hearing any real practical messages about dating and marriage on Sundays.  I have heard a lot about the Biblical idea of marriage, but as far as practical day-to-day relationship stuff, that wasn’t something that was taught on Sundays.  My hope is I can change that.  If God created relationships and if God wanted us to enjoy relationships, why wouldn’t we talk about it?  And why not on Sundays?

For the past 2 weeks we have encouraged you instead of seeking the right person that you take the time to become the right person.  So that when you do meet the right person, that right person might find you attractive.  If you need some help, you can find it in 1 Corinthians 13 and keep practicing.  Last week we talked about fighting fair, every couple go through fights, why not learn to fight the right way and fight fair?  Remember healthy couples fight to resolve, not to win.  Today, we are going to talk about another essential in every marriage relationship – fun.  Let me first ask you, are you having fun in your marriage?  If so, good for you!  If not, why not?  Why is fun so important in a marriage?  The answer might be deeper than you thought.

Moving Forward

Fun is not a luxury in marriage.  If you don’t make time for fun, you may not have a marriage.  How would you evaluate the level of fun in your marriage?

Discussion Questions

1. What are some of the things that first attracted you to your spouse and caused you to fall in love with them?

2. What are some of the things you most enjoy doing together in your marriage?  How have your interests changed throughout you marriage?

3. Share one of the most fun experiences you’ve had as a couple.  What impact did this experience have on your marriage?

4. If you are struggling to have fun in your marriage, what’s keeping you from having fun?  What steps do you need to take to remove these barriers?